Why? Because you’re hella cute and totally charming, and you give THE BEST hugs. Seriously.
This post is going to chat about something that I’ve been working on for a few weeks now.
Let me preface this by saying that I’m in a committed relationship. I’ve been with my lovely fiancee, Marian, for 6 years total. I am totally, 100% in love and happy with her.
However, I needed…something more. Something that she just couldn’t provide for me. Not another person – I needed to love myself and be happy with spending time with myself and just liking who I was as a person. Most of my time is taken up trying to be an mature older sister, or a considerate lover, or a supportive best friend. I needed to learn how to come to like the person that I was when I was alone, and left alone with all the thoughts that rattle around in my head.
I was getting so bogged down with being there for other people that I wasn’t there for myself and I was starting to dislike myself…a lot.
And I don’t know about you, but I HATE feeling like I hate myself. It’s a shitty-ass way to feel.
So, I started to date myself. You know all those cute little things you do for your significant other when you start dating? The cute texts throughout the day, the love notes, the little gifts to show you’re thinking about them, the planning out dates and getting all excited when thinking of spending time with them?
Yeah, all that, aimed right at this chick right here. I leave myself sticky notes telling me how cute I am, how brilliant I am, how amazingly AWESOME I am. I make sure to take myself out on a date once a week – just doing something by myself, for myself. Pretty soon I’ll be taking myself to an art gallery since it’s not really Marian’s thing, but I freaking love them.
If I see something small and nice at a store I’ll buy it for myself, because why the hell not?
So, my plums, try dating yourself. Write yourself love notes in your journal, take yourself out on a date, buy the cute thing in the store. You’re worth it.